About Barry

Barry Goldstein is the co-author with Elizabeth Liu of Representing the Domestic Violence Survivor REPRESENTING THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURVIVOR, co editor with Mo Therese Hannah of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY and author of SCARED TO LEAVE AFRAID TO STAY. He has been an instructor and supervisor in a NY Model Batterer Program since 1999. He was an attorney representing victims of domestic violence for 30 years. He now provides workshops, judicial and other trainings regarding domestic violence particularly related to custody issues. He also serves as a consultant and expert witness.

Barry's new book, The Quincy Solution: Stop Domestic Violence and Save $500 Billion demonstrates how we can dramatically reduce domestic violence crime with proven practices.

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About Veronica

After a 20 year Sales and Marketing career in the Television Industry, Veronica York felt a passion and a calling to make a career change. Following a 10 year marriage that was both mentally and emotionally abusive, and going through a difficult custody battle, she started her High Conflict Coaching practice. During her experience with the family court system, she realized that the best interest of the children was not the first priority. Parental rights are trumping children’s rights and children are suffering unnecessarily due to the outdated practices of judges and other court professionals. Along with helping her clients navigate their custody battles, she is also an advocate for change in the family court system as well as a champion for Domestic Violence training and education. Veronica is certified with the High Conflict Divorce Certification Program and has advanced training in family law mediation. She performs speaking engagements and writes articles regarding the topics of Child Custody Issues that involve Intimate Partner Violence and Child Abuse. She also does training on the misuse of Parental Alienation and the effects of Post Separation Abuse during a divorce.

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Most family court custody cases are settled amicably. It’s only about 3.8% of cases that require trial and often much more.

Open Letter to Family Court Lawyers from a Domestic Violence Expert - Photo by Angela Roma - Pexels

A Closer Look at the Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt Case

Equal Parenting Perspectives: A Closer Look at the Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt Case - Photo by cottonbro studio - Pexels

Are Children Being Heard, Believed and Protected by Family Court Professionals?

Child Abuse and Custody in Family Court: Are Children Being Heard, Believed and Protected by Family Court Professionals? - Photo by Mikhail Nilov - Pexels

Safe Primary Attachment Figures vs. Abusers with “Rights”

Family Courts’ Worst Trade for Kids - Photo by Daniel Duarte - Pexels

Just as custody courts developed responses for domestic violence at a time when no research was available, early proponents of shared parenting sought to experiment when there was no research about shared parenting.

Shared Parenting Places Ideology Over Children - Photo by August de Richelieu - Pexels

During our training to teach batterer classes, we often discussed the fact that much domestic violence is counterintuitive.

Does an Expert Witness Need to Speak with all Parties? Photo by George Milton - Pexels

The Vastly Different Response in Family Court and in Life

Someone Is Mentally Ill, an addict or an Abuser - Photo by Evelyn Chong - Pexels

The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges seeks to teach other judges about the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Research and the Saunders Study.

Preventing Harmful Outcomes in Family Court - Photo by cottonbro studio on Pexels

Family Courts Need Domestic Violence Experts

Family Courts Need Domestic Violence Experts 20 Common Mistakes in Evaluations Judges Miss - Image of a pen and check list. Image by Philip Neumann from Pixabay

The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges seeks to train other judges about important scientific research like ACE (adverse childhood experiences) and Saunders.

Dear Judge Responding to DV Custody Cases - Image gavel on black background. Image by Sergei Tokmakov, Esq. from Pixabay

Most child custody cases involve two safe parents who would not hurt their children.

Custody Courts Fail Children - Abridged Version

One of the best decisions I ever made occurred at the start of my work in the domestic violence movement.

Recognizing Who Are the Experts

Good Advice for Conronavirus and for Judges

Listen to the Scientists

The Only Outcome Family Courts Will Consider


A Rare Victory for Children Exposes Why Family Courts Usually Fail Abuse Victims

Don’t Wait to Protect Children

Judges, lawyers and evaluators often minimize or dismiss domestic violence by referring to the dispute as “he-said-she-said.”

Don’t Confuse Domestic Violence with “He-Said-She-Said"

Lebron James was criticized on a local sports talk station for using offensive words based on a stereotype about an ethnic group.

High Conflict Approaches Are Sexist and Gender Biased

The most common question I receive is where to find a good attorney for domestic violence cases.

How Can Protective Mothers Find a Good Attorney?

ACE has the ability to change the discussion in court that badly needs to be changed.

Using ACE for a Protective Mother’s Case

Failure to integrate current scientific research.

Why Custody Courts Fail Children

What happens when a consumer product in responsible for the deaths of even a few children?

Why Family Courts Don’t Understand Dangerous Cases

Courts cannot save children if they are unaware that standard court practices routinely place children in jeopardy.

Judges Unaware of Custody Court Crisis

Scientific research is now clear. Custody courts do well in cases involving two safe parents, but are getting a high percentage of domestic violence and child abuse cases wrong.

Dear Judge

"Most domestic violence custody cases involve parents who have no severe mental health problem that would make them unfit parents."

Custody Courts Have No Time to Protect Children

Dirty Little Secret: Courts Ignore Most Dangerous Risk

How Many Deaths Caused by Shared Parenting?

No Big Deal in Our Country Domestic Violence, Rape and Sexual Assault

Tolerating Gender Crimes

How High Conflict Approaches Obscure the Danger

The True Nature of Contested Custody Cases

12 Rare Events Family Courts Constantly Believe

Gaslighting in the Court

Jennifer Schlecht is one of the most recent women to be denied what should be a fundamental right. Jennifer’s husband like many abusers believed she did not have this right.

Do Women Have a Right to Leave Their Abusers?

WARNING: Any attempt to adjudicate custody cases involving possible domestic violence or child abuse without using current scientific research like ACE and Saunders will ruin children's lives!

Warning to Judges, Evaluators, Caseworkers and Legislators

Domestic violence became a public issue at a time when virtually no scientific research was available.

What Does Domestic Violence Have to do with Shared Parenting

The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Studies are medical research from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention that can be used to reduce cancer, heart disease, diabetes, mental illness, crime, substance abuse, suicide and many other horrible health and social problems.

Why Family Courts Cannot Protect Children: ACE vs PAS

Family courts have a long history of focusing their attention on reunifying families.

The Safe Child Act: When a Parent Does More Harm than Good

So how can the custody court system allow a sexist theory concocted not from any research but...

The Question for Family Courts: How Can You Give More Influence to a Pro Pedophile Theory than Scientific Research from the CDC and U.S. Justice Department

The only way children benefit from relationships with abusers is if they stop!

Court False Equivalency

In 2017, I wrote letters to two leading judicial organizations. In the letters I put together all the recent research and media investigations.

Two Letters

Dear Custody Court Judge
I will discuss the harm and danger of these extreme decisions below, but judges should be aware that these decisions are probably the largest factor in the recent increase in domestic violence homicide.

Extreme Custody Decisions That Risk Lives

This led some people, including court professionals to treat mental health professionals as if they were the experts in domestic violence.

DV CASES Require DV Experts: DUH!

Every day I hear horrific stories of courts using deeply flawed and outdated practices that ruin the lives of protective mothers and their children.

The Broken Custody Court System: Is there Reason for Hope?

Every year 58,000 children are sent for custody or unprotected visitation with dangerous abusers.

Crisis in the Custody Court System

The United States Department of Justice provided a grant to support a major study by Dr. Daniel Saunders

Using the Sanders' Report Part Two

The United States Department of Justice provided a grant to support a major study by Dr. Daniel Saunders

Using the Sanders' Report Part One

More than anything we need a change of attitudes and atmosphere in the custody courts, but perhaps some positive legislative changes can help improve the atmosphere in the custody courts.

Legislation Needed to Help Protective Mothers

The loss of one year from one child’s life is one year too many.

Serious Health Consequences to Children Witnessing Domestic Violence

He believed that if he could prevent domestic violence all crime would be reduced and this is exactly what happened.

Quincy Model Comment

Society has the knowledge and ability to prevent a large majority of domestic violence crimes and especially murders.

Why Don’t We End Domestic Violence?